Chastity cages seem to be having an it moment. Once relegated to gay BDSM and Master and Slave role-play, has been adopted by many straight Millennials, many who believe they are addicted to porn. They have begun wearing them thinking that it will curb their compulsive masturbation.
In 2016 Vice published a fascinating story called “What Did Porn Do to Millennials?”
“…evidence suggests that porn really has left an imprint on young people’s sex habits.”
Does porn ostensibly provide any insight into why millennials are the whiniest and/or awesomest generation ever?
Judging from what data is currently out there, plus academic inquiry into porn, and anecdotal information about how and when millennials have sex, porn really has left an imprint on young people’s sex habits.
Growing up, millennials had easier access to a greater variety of porn than previous generations did, and they’ve grown into porn-consuming adults. A Brigham Young University study published last year in the Journal of Sex Research found that by sheer quantity, porn consumption has been steadily on the rise for decades. Generation X loved porn more than the baby boomers, and just as you might expect, that trend is continuing upward with millennials. But do all those .gifs and fuckvids explain why millennials are so damaged and miserable?
Mel Magazine reported: “I was mainly worried about whether it would hurt,” says Sam, a 25-year-old accountant from Edinburgh. He’s referring to the padlocked plastic and silicone cage he’s worn around his penis 14 hours a day for the past two months under his suit pants — a choice that’s prevented him from eating and drinking at work, lest he have to use the bathroom.
Sam, a pseudonym, is a self-described porn addict, who, at the height of his addiction, would “masturbate at least four times a day, sometimes more.” It wasn’t just restricted to his place either. He’d frequently jerk off at friends’ houses, work and coffee shops. He once even masturbated behind a bush in a public park. His lowest point came when his girlfriend of just over a year broke up with him. “She felt disconnected from me in our relationship, and in our sex life, too,” he explains, adding that he never told her about his compulsive need to masturbate. “I think she got the feeling that I wasn’t into her — it’s only a matter of time before the ‘I’m tired’ excuse stops working, or when you’re just not able to do anything when you’re actually having sex.”
Sam’s story isn’t atypical. Millennial men like him — men who grew up in the age of easy-to-access internet porn — often believe that they’re “addicted” to pornography and masturbation, even though there’s a fair amount of evidence to suggest that such addiction isn’t scientifically valid. Still, there are hundreds of thousands of “NoFappers” online who are attempting to either dramatically restrict their masturbation habits or stop them completely because they believe it’s the very thing that’s ruining their relationships (and lives).
Guys commit to the cages in public forums on Reddit called r/NoFap and announce the duration they can withstand.
For the most part, chastity cages are associated with BDSM. In particular, male submissives say chastity cages are an expression of loyalty to their dominant partners. (They’ll wear them in their domme’s honor for weeks and months at a time.) For instance, 23-year-old Alan (another pseudonym), a barista, explains, “I wear [a chastity cage] as a reminder that it belongs to my domme. She’s the one who is in control and can decide when it gets unlocked. I want her to have complete pleasure over me.” Goddess Mia, a domme in New York City, adds, “[A large number of her male clients] want to be controlled by me, especially [me having] the right to tell them when they’re allowed to jerk off.”
Vice said of the rising popularity of cages: Male chastity is that thing where you lock your penis in a specially designed cage that prevents you from getting full erections or using your penis for sex. While locked up, you can’t masturbate or orgasm, and the cage can only be removed by your designated “keyholder.” While the thought of this makes most men cringe, it makes others whimper with excitement. Being caged can be extremely exciting and fulfilling. Some people say orgasm denial increases your sex drive and improves your focus. It also obviously heightens the stakes of a dom/sub relationship, with a master or mistress able to punish their sub by denying them not just sex but the ability to orgasm.
Learn how to put one on with Pornhub’s handy how-to video.
Into reported last year about Locktober. “For an entire month, people interested in a subset of BDSM called chastity play can participate in a ritual called Locktober. Those wishing to take part have a few options: they can get locked up by a dom/me, a man or woman who administers the punishment as a form of pleasure or orgasm denial. The dom/me will often hold the physical key that will unlock a sub’s genitals, meaning their pleasure is 100 percent dependent on someone else.
Talk about Locktober online — even if you’re, let’s say, looking to interview people for this story — and the mention of it will elicit a range of reactions from curiosity to laughter to befuddlement. What would spur a person to put their penis behind a padlock for a whole calendar month? For participants, Locktober holds lessons about their own sexuality and how they must get creative to feel pleasure when their primary sexual organ is shoved into a plastic tube.
For gay guys looking to explore, Fort Troff is the best place to start. Not only do they have an exhaustive supply, but they provide XXX rated video demos of how to use their products, fun to watch with your partner if participating in caging your cock.
Fort Troff also has an amazing primer on the subject: Their guide to Male Chastity Cage Training. Training and tips are provided by “Coach” who begins by saying: “The first time I saw someone’s cock locked in a cage, the thought of my cock being off limits made me cringe.
“What the fuck?”, Why would anyone want to do that? How could neutralizing your cock make you horny? Naturally, my curiosity pushed me to answer this question.
So I went out and got my first cock cage and I immediately wanted to wear it in public. I love wearing kink gear in public in a way that’s only recognizable to guys that are into the same thing, whether its a harness under my shirt, a B-Plug, a cock ring as a bracelet… you get the idea.
Like a good newbie I fiddled with the cock cage until I got it on nice and comfortable and I took my ass to a gay bar, nervous that the bulge the cock cage made in my crotch might be too noticeable.
In his own words Fort Troff’s Caged Boy’s Statement of Purpose:
“My purpose for being caged is multifaceted. Ironically, it is to gain more control while simultaneously losing it.
I’ve been interested in chastity ever since I heard about it
So, I’ve decided to try chastity to help myself control/limit the use of my cock and times I cum in order to cultivate self-control. Having the cage on, I’ve realized how much I touch, caress, tug, play with my dick throughout the day…a lot.
It’s delightfully frustrating not being able to get hard, even though I’m more aroused than usual.
Another aspect is losing control. I’m in a Dom/Sub relationship where I am the sub. Being able to serve my Sir and have him to decide when and how I can cum, turns me on so much because he knows me so well. What I like, what I don’t, etc.
So, while gaining control over my excessive masturbating habit, I’m also able to give more control to my Sir when it comes to our sex life.”
That should be enough to get you started!