Meet the Black Gay Dad Who Wrote A Children’s Book That Reflected His Reality

When Leon Wenham wrote You, Me, and Lots of Love he says it was because he couldn’t find a children’s book that reflected his experience as a Black, gay, adoptive father to his five-year-old son.

In a sneak peak he posted on Instagram, Wenham writes, “Soooooooo I thought I’d drop an exclusive here to say a huge thank you to everyone that has followed this page and will hopefully be following me on my journey as I self publish my first children’s book. I’ve approved the draft sketches and they are great. This is one of my favourite pages not only because it has the title of my book in it, but because it’s something I say to my beautiful son quite a lot. “In our home theres, you, me and lots and lots of love”

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Soooooooo I thought I’d drop an exclusive here to say a huge thank you to everyone that has followed this page and will hopefully be following me on my journey as I self publish my first children’s book. I’ve approved the draft sketches and they are great. This is one of my favourite pages not only because it has the title of my book in it, but because it’s something I say to my beautiful son quite a lot. “In our home theres, you, me and lots and lots of love” I’m self publishing via @bear_with_us_productions #inclusiveeducation #inclusivechildrensbooks #lgbtchildrensbooks #samesexparents #adoptioncommunity #nationaladoptionmonth #nationaladoptionweekend #nationaladoptionday #youcanadopt #diversechildrensbooks #blackboysrock #blackboysbooks #gayblackdadsofinstagram #blackgaydads #gayswithkids #singledad #singledadlife #ukadoptioncommunity #adoption #adoptionjourney #lgbtfamily #podcast #lgbtq🌈 #parenting #singleparent #singleparents #frolo @frolo_app @blackbritishparent @merkybooks @cocoagirlmag @cocoaboymag @thevoicenewspaper @blackbritishparent @black @ukblackpride @gays_with_kids #inclusiveeducation #inclusivechildrensbooks #blackgaydadsrock #laurahenryconsultancy @amplifydot @ashleyjbaptiste @baronessfloellabenjamin @thevitamindproject @candicebrathwaite @stylemesunday @unlikelydad @sissaylemn @ashleyjbaptiste @bear_with_us_productions theblacknurserymanager @beninldn @stonewalluk @penguinukbooks #davidolusoga

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According to an interview he did with the MailOnline, he said: “One of the reasons I chose to write the book is… I didn’t find any books that represented our nuclear family. I’m Black Caribbean and all the books were very much all conventional and featured Caucasian people and I think when you’ve got a child that’s adopted and doesn’t have a conventional family, if you keep seeing that in books it’s just not really helpful for them. It just highlights that they’re different, which for a four or five-year-old that can be quite difficult.”

The title of the upcoming self-published book, he explained, is “something I say to my beautiful son quite a lot: ‘In our home there’s you, me and lots and lots of love.’”

He added: “The book speaks about our adoption journey and it explains and encourages some of the big feelings and emotions many adopted children experience.

Check out @somefamiliespod to listen to the whole interview on his  adoption journey below.

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As some of you may know, I wrote a children’s story at the start of lockdown and I’m in the process of self-publishing it. The book speaks about our adoption journey and it explains and encourages some of the big feelings and emotions many adopted children experience. The other main message of this book is to normalise diversity from a young age. I have purposely used as many different ethnic characters as possible in the book, in order to show children that everyone is different and that’s ok. This book is for ALL children and ALL families. Finding inclusive books for children can be difficult but my mission is to ensure every child understands how normal being different is. There’s nothing to share just yet as I’m in the process of approving the illustrations (which are amazing). I honestly can’t wait to start sharing sneak peeks. My book is called You, me and lots and lots of love. Check out @somefamiliespod to listen to the whole interview on my adoption journey if you haven’t already. #inclusiveeducation #inclusivechildrensbooks #lgbtchildrensbooks #samesexparents #adoptioncommunity #nationaladoptionmonth #nationaladoptionweekend #nationaladoptionday #youcanadopt #diversechildrensbooks #blackboysrock #blackboysbooks #gayblackdadsofinstagram #blackgaydads #gayswithkids #singledad #singledadlife #ukadoptioncommunity #adoption #adoptionjourney #lgbtfamily #podcast #lgbtq🌈 #parenting #singleparent #singleparents #youmeandlotsandlotsoflove #frolo @frolo_app @blackbritishparent @merkybooks @cocoagirlmag @cocoaboymag @thevoicenewspaper @blackbritishparent @black @ukblackpride @gays_with_kids #inclusiveeducation #inclusivechildrensbooks #blackgaydadsrock #laurahenryconsultancy @amplifydot @ashleyjbaptiste @baronessfloellabenjamin @thevitamindproject @candicebrathwaite @stylemesunday @unlikelydad @sissaylemn @beninldn @penguinukbooks

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You, Me, and Lots of Love is being published through Just Bear With Us books.