The sex “toy” business has exploded in recent years. Largely led by a generation of women who’ve grown up post first wave feminism and destigmatized the shame around them. 

A study conducted by Indiana University in Bloomington in 2009 found vibrator use to be common and linked to sexual health. According to the study: “Two Indiana University studies conducted among nationally representative samples of adult American men and women show that vibrator use during sexual interactions is common, with use being reported by approximately 53% of women and 45% of men ages 18 to 60. Not only is vibrator use common, but the two studies also show that vibrator use is associated with more positive sexual function and being more proactive in caring for one’s sexual health.”

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The studies, led by researchers at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion in IU’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation, were the first to publish data about vibrator use from nationally representative samples of the U.S. population. This lack of data has existed despite a longstanding practice by many physicians and therapists to recommend vibrator use to help treat sexual dysfunctions or to improve sexual enjoyment.

As a matter of fact, GAYNRD contributor Jordan (above) recently said, “Suppressing our sexualities and who we feel we are in the name of the acquisition of a forced perspective is a form of emotional suicide.”

One study surveyed women. The other surveyed men. Both were by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a leading peer-reviewed journal in the area of urology and sexual health.

“The study about male vibrator use is additionally important because it shows that vibrator use is also common among men, something that has not been documented before,” Michael Reece, director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion, said.

Reece is the lead author of “Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Men in the United States.” Co-authors include Herbenick; Stephanie Sanders, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at IU and the Department of Gender Studies; Brian Dodge, Center for Sexual Health Promotion; Annahita Ghassemi, Church & Dwight Co., Inc.; Dennis Fortenberry, IU School of Medicine.

For men:

• The prevalence of men who had incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities during their lives was 44.8%, with no statistical differences between the rates of vibrator use between men who identified as heterosexual and those who identified as gay or bisexual.

• Heterosexual men most commonly reported having used vibrators during foreplay or intercourse with a female partner, with 91% of those who had used a vibrator reporting that they had done so during such activities with women.

• Of men who have used vibrators, 10% had done so in the past month, 14.2% in the past year and 20.5% more than one year ago.

• Men who reported having used vibrators, particularly those with more recent use, were more likely to report participation in sexual health promoting behaviors, such as testicular self-exam.

• Men who had used vibrators recently also scored themselves higher on four of the five domains of sexual function, as measured by the International Index of Erectile Function (erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire).

Concurrently, sex toys marketed at gay men have seen an even bigger explosion in the last ten years. Largely due to the democratization of some BDSM and historically fetish predilections that have become fairly main stream (*ahem* Pup Play comes to mind).

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GAYNRD’s Theo K. Georges took a walk on the wild side after a rough breakup.

I could give you some sob story about how it was hard, and how difficult it is for me, but if I’m being 100% honest, the only thing I’m going to miss about him, is the sex. He was really really good at sex.

Since the break up was recent, I’ve been a little hesitant to get myself back out there. It’s not that I’m against hookups (because I’m not)—I just don’t want to have to go through the “Yeah, he was okay, but not as good as he was, maybe I was a moron for letting him go (I wasn’t). But I’m basically horny 24/7 I’ve decided  to try something new.

Toys.

No. Not that kind.

It’s not that I’ve ever had anything against them, I just have never had the opportunity to use them before. While my ex had one or two  great qualities, an open mind to sexual experimentation was not one of them. Again, what he did do was amazing, but being amazing at one thing, is’t always enough.

I wan’t more. I deserve more. So, I decided to give myself what I deserve.

Adammale gave me the opportunity explore my body, and figure out things about pleasuring myself that I never knew I never knew.  It’s been a week of experimentation and pure unadulterated enjoyment.

Since this was going to be my first time, I decided to start small and work my way up. So, the first night, I used the Man Wand Starter. Measuring 1.8 inches wide by 3.25 inches long, this rechargeable vibrator enhances your natural stroking so you climax faster and harder than ever.  It’s soft and flexible shape (made of silicone) wraps easily around shafts of all shapes and sizes and its fully waterproof design make it100% portable and usable in any situation.

After a full day of work, I settled in to work myself up, I reached for the lube and disconnected the man wand from  the USB charger. There are 10 built-in vibration modes for you to try, including multiple speeds and pulsating patterns and each one is more exhilarating than the next. Looking at its small and simple appearance, one would not suspect that it could have so much pleasuring power. It’s phenomenal. The Wand was so impressive, the next morning, I used it again. As an adult, there’s no better way to start the day than a good orgasm. You can purchase the Man Wand Starter here.

The second night, I used another masturbator, the Satisfyer Men. Similar to the Fleshlight, this innovative masturbator is made from a soft Cyberskin that provides a realistic feeling and is comparable with most water-based lubes. I thought it would be just just another masturbator, but the Sattisfyer is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before. Adjustable, the outer shell has two silicone grip areas that you can squeeze to make the sleeve feel even tighter. My orgasm was intense. Gripping it tightly I was able to not only stroke, but thrust. The textured interior adds even more stimulation and will conform to any penis size. It was  the most powerful orgasm I’ve ever experienced.

Adult film legend Rocco Siffredi feels the same way.

Siffredi (above) has recorded 1800 films and slept with over 5000 partners. But, the man says he’s only ever had one best orgasm—with the Satisfyer Men. You can buy it here.

The third day, I decided to use something I’ve never even really thought about using before, a dildo.

While sex toys have been something I’ve never gotten the change to use, dildos have been something I have actually avoided. My thought has been, if something is going to be inside me, it has to be attached to a person. But, since that wasn’t going to happen, I decided to give Adam’s True Feel Cock a shot. Adam’s dual density technology gives it a soft and flexible outer skin that very nearly feels like the real thing, especially when taking in to account its realistic head, balls and vein detailing. Its firm inner core also mimics a throbbing erection. With a suction cup base, I decided to use this one in the shower.  The warmth of the water, the humidity in the air, the feeling of Adam slipping in and out of me, it was an intense and extraordinary feeling. It was wonderful and after another intense orgasm, I spent the rest of the night wondering why it took me so long to give a dildo a try. They’re amazing. You can buy Adam’s True Feel Cock here.

The fourth night, I tried the Twisted Rimmer Prostate Massager. I purposefully saved this toy for last.

Honestly, it frightened me a bit. Adam’s True Feel Cock was only 5.5″ x 1.5”, which was similar to my ex (maybe a little bigger) but the Twisted Rimmer is 6.25” overall with 5.25” x 1.6” insertable. Its bulbous head was a bit daunting.

Chris Conrad of Sex-Toys How dot com has a great how-to video below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XyBGJwC0Azg

So, I wanted to make sure I was well prepared to try it out and a quiet Friday night at home, was the perfect opportunity. Also waterproof, I went back into the shower. I started with Adam’s True Feel Cock, using it to warm me up.  Once I was ready, I used a generous helping of lube and inserted the vibrating rimmer. It’s textured head hit my prostate with an intense and incredible massage that immediately had me squirming in pleasure. With the touch of another button, its internal beaded shaft started to rotate.

My mind, and my cock, were blown.

This was the most incredibly sexual-intense feeling I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. Seriously.  You can buy the massager here.

Then, I had an idea. While the prostate massager was living up to its name, I decided to reach for the Satisfyer. Pleasuring myself from both sides, I had one of the most powerful orgasms of my entire life. Full body, shivering with ecstasy, I was left breathless and completely stunned.

While I will eventually want to reconnect with another man romantically, until that day comes, thanks to Adammale, I will be able to offer myself countless hours of sexual enjoyment.

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Have fun and be safe!